Getting back into the dating scene or associating with someone can sometimes be scary, at least for me it is. Being a single mom of two and constantly on the go, tending to work, and my children, the last thing I think about is associating or dating a guy. To have to get to know someone or starting from scratch is nerve-wrecking! But the main thing is accepting my children. If you don’t accept the fact that I have children, we can’t date! Its as simple as that. My children are and will always be a part of who I am. I recently began associating with someone, and beforehand I let it be known that I have two children. I told him, before moving forward does he mind, because if not, we’re done before it even started. Every mother or parent in general is protective over their kid(s) especially when bringing someone new into their life. I’m not going to jump into anything or even introduce my children any time soon, because I must feel out who they are and become comfortable with them. Here are a few tips that I used when starting to date again as a single mom:

1. Talk on the phone: Getting to know someone over the phone is a good start instead of immediately going out. Sometimes you can get a person’s vibe over the phone on whether you want to meet them in person or not.
2. Trust your instinct: If something feels off during conversation, or during the meet ups/dates, cancel it or end it right away. In any situation where someone makes you feel uncomfortable and there are red flags, end all communications with them.
3. Wait to introduce the kids: When kids become engaged with a person and a bond is formed, then the bond is unexpectedly broken, it becomes heart-wrenching for the kids. Personally, when the relationship between you and your potentially new partner becomes serious or when you feel most comfortable, introduce your kids.

All in all, it is best to ease into talking to someone and starting over. Don’t jump into anything so quickly; take your time. It’ll be best for you and the kids.

Dating a woman with kids doesn’t mean you will be playing daddy…It just means you’ll be becoming apart of a family and a role model for a child. If you aren’t ready to step up, then simply don’t step to her…

Okay, this may sound a little insane, but I just recently evicted my three year and one year old… out of my room. We moved into our home almost a year ago. I wasn’t quite ready for them to be in their rooms yet because being a single parent and only adult in the house, I was still getting use to the home and everyone adjusted. Though we have security and other features in the home to help us feel protected, I still wanted them close to me. I have my bed in my room, my daughters’ crib, and my son’s toddler bed. Yes all three beds! This was only supposed to temporary. Not for a year!!! I decked my daughters’ room out with a unicorn theme, and my son’s room with a superhero theme. Surprisingly, they stay in their rooms the entire night. I can now have a “mommy/grown-up” room to myself. To keep a peace of mind throughout the nights and while they are playing, I purchased the LBtech Video Baby Monitor from Amazon. This baby monitor has two cameras which works perfectly. It has night vision, and a two way talk back. Not only can I hear and see my kids from down the hall and get a great night’s sleep, I get a peace of mind knowing there’s extra security for my children.

Check out the link where I purchased the LBtech Video Baby Monitor: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07M7MQPXM/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B07M7MQPXM&linkCode=as2&tag=pwb09d-20&linkId=2ad1a5cb4f7f3b84ad32c2b7fef8600e